Not Fitting In

I have spent decades of my life sick. I can trace my mental health issues to my childhood. I remember back in primary school feeling like the odd one out. Feeling like I was a square peg trying to fit into a round hole.

For decades my mental health issues weren’t dealt with. I never told anyone or asked for help. Not dealing with my issues led to an alcohol addiction. Mental health distress and an addiction do not go well together. Being told to grow up, pull your head in or that I was a ‘headcase’ did not help. I think the words that hurt the most are the ones said by people close to you. During my period of unwellness I lost custody of my 2 children.

Today, I am incredibly proud to say I am 5 years sober. I was sick of being sick and hit my rock bottom. I slowly rebuilt my life to a place that I am happy to be. Everyday is hard work but I’m proud of where I am now. I no longer dwell on diagnoses because I have learnt they are only labels. I have found a passion for helping others in my community overcome their own mental health issues and addictions. Since the start of my recovery, I have rebuilt my relationship with my children with love and trust. My children, along with giving back to others on their own mental health journey inspires me to keep going.

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